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For 17 months following the death of my parents, I blogged. This blog is threaded with vulnerability, faith, fear and peace. This blog isn't "pretty" or politically correct; It isn't exciting or amusing. It is raw. It is the journey of me, as a Christian, giving myself the grace to grieve; the grace to be human in the midst of the greatest trauma of my life. Though I wish this pain on no one, I hope that through my words you may find words of your own; that through my voice you may find a voice to your own hurt that leads you closer to Christ.

"Feelings"

5/23/2017

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I am learning that one of the important keys to healing is moving beyond feelings. Yes, one has to embrace the varied emotions of fear, anger, disappointment, hurt, loss rejection, etc. but at some point, one has to  stop waiting on feelings to function.
 
Just think, there are days you don't feel like going to work, but you go; days you don't feel like adulting, but you do; days you don't feel like worshipping at church, but you still raise holy hands (*can I get an "Amen"*); days you don't feel like going to class, but you show up; days you feel like completely going OFF, but you hold your peace; days you feel like giving  up, but you keep pressing forward. If we were to rely solely on our feelings, what would get accomplished? 
 
You see, this life isn't 100% about what we feel. Much of the time, it’s about using faith to press through feelings that are debilitating and/or destructive. For me, on those days when my feelings seem stronger than my faith, I am reminded that though I feel weak, in Christ I am strong; though my life has shifted to a "Plan B" I am still in God's "Plan A." You see, I realize that many of my daunting feelings come not just from the loss of my parents, but in the uncertainty of how it impacts my future. In this vein, I am learning to press beyond my feelings to replace what “I don’t know about the future with what I do know about God” (Catie Caine). As I replace daunting feelings of ambiguity with unwavering confidence in God, I can't help but notice my focus shifting from uncontrollable feelings to undeniable faith.
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Shineka McKoy
11/22/2017 02:39:21 am

Hi Kkiiyyaa!! What a joy it is to have connected with you! Your testimony is in essence a devotion to me as I read and relate; in such a way I'm currently asking God to help me get out of my feelings and focus on my faith. You're so awesome and I thank God for blessing us with the opportunity to connect and become family in Christ. I love you lady and thank you so much for your encouragement and support even when moments may seem rough. You're a diamond lady!! <3

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